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Feeling love means we are running soft, safe, undefended, expansive energy, as opposed to loss or fear, which most often show up as hard, constrictive, defensive, protective energy attempting to safeguard our body and brain. One of the reasons we can so often unconditionally loves babies and pets is that they rarely trigger defensive reactions in us. On the other hand, one big life challenge is to be able to continue running, soft, safe, undefended expansive energy in the face of someone we have become disenchanted with, or around someone who has become disenchanted with us. But we can tell you from personal experience, that while it’s not necessarily easy, it’s not impossible.
Given this state of affairs, it’s useful for us to think of emotional reactions as early warning signals surfacing from down below the neck and from the right brain’s depths primarily. Emotions are early warning signals because almost all of them take in at any moment are often apprehended by “The Bully Interpreter” brain, and the Interpreter is constantly distorting things conservatively, negativity, flawed focus, and apprehensiveness.
Not only does our safety lie in fearless defenselessness, but therein also lies a pathway back to beyond right-doing and wrongdoing. It’s in that field that we can begin to breathe out and tell tender truths that permit Defense Mechanisms to dissolve. When we can do this successfully, we come back face to face with other great awareness: love is the default condition, the primary, subtle, driving creative energy of the universe. It’s the energy that grows flowers and trees and baby’s brains and children’s hearts. Learning to listen skillfully is, however, a VERY difficult practice.
There’s rarely a day that goes by that we don’t find “The Bully Interpreter” trying to convince us and others about the rightness and righteousness of what it believes, and not only is it adamant in its beliefs, but it’s also often inflexible in its ability to consider alternative possibilities. Not a great way to invoke and sustain loving feelings, unfortunately. Using listening skills as a contemplative spiritual practice invariably seems to soften mental and physical structures inside us. Tensions we are holding in body, mind, and brain begin to ease, allowing “The Bully Interpreter” to relax.
In our Fundamental Transformation and Motivational Journey, we show you that we often find ourselves opening to the possibility of increasingly loving responses with such release.
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