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Forgiveness is a strong word, and rightfully so. Often, it can seem like a monumental task to forgive others and almost impossible to forgive yourself. But it can be done.
We define what we’re talking about before we go on to describe what you need to do to accomplish forgiveness. To forgive is to cease to feel resentment against another person. It is the act of feeling compassion for the real or imagined harmful acts of others. In other words, you see through the superficiality and externality of what has been done to see the offender’s inner humanity and universality. It is to look beyond foibles to understand and feel the other person.
Forgiveness can be transformational because it provides a sense of relief and purging. Therefore, it impacts your emotional intelligence and your moral beliefs by enhancing them both. Use forgiveness to become the “bigger” person constantly seeking higher ground, above the petty jealousies and harbored grudges, which make you small.
A barrier for forgiveness is often conditioning to see forgiveness as a sign of vulnerability and fear that others will take advantage. To deal with this barrier by realizing that exhibiting vulnerability is a sign of being brave, not being timid. Only confident people are unafraid to demonstrate their vulnerability and fragility. It takes guts to show it! When you show up as a victor, not a victim, you overcome the forgiveness barrier.
Learning how to forgive yourself and others requires practice and the ability to look beyond the initial pain to the long-term benefit. Like with most things in life, the more you do it, the easier it becomes. So, learn how to forgive by labeling the negative emotions and figuring out how to process them faster, and then practice forgiveness again and again. When you do that, you increase your emotional intelligence, learn to impact your current mood, and adjust your attitude toward others.
Cultivating forgiveness is not easy, and depending on the offense, it might seem impossible. But you can do so if you are moved by empathy, kindness, or compassion, which are the enhancers of your well-being, rather than by anger, bitterness, or resentfulness, which are the derailers of your well-being.
In our Fundamental Transformation and Motivational Journey, we show you that forgiving is transformational because it serves your intention to stay in touch with your real values and adjust your beliefs in order to become the best version of yourself. Also, it’s part of practicing empathy.
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